The 'Smile' Dickheads
Surely every female has had one of these, you know the "Smile more", "Smile, love" or even (and most irritatingly) "Smile love, it might never happen." (To which the best reply would seem to be, 'I've had to look at you, so it already did.')
I'm not sure why exactly I'm supposed to walking around grinning inanely, other than that it obviously interferes with the fantasies of the men around that I'm a nympho sexbot wanting any man that fancies it, and I look less fuckable with my teeth inside my head where they belong.
At any rate, it pisses me off no end that complete strangers feel entitled to inform me of how my face should be, as though they owned it, or it were public property, which of course according to them it is.
I'm not sure why exactly I'm supposed to walking around grinning inanely, other than that it obviously interferes with the fantasies of the men around that I'm a nympho sexbot wanting any man that fancies it, and I look less fuckable with my teeth inside my head where they belong.
At any rate, it pisses me off no end that complete strangers feel entitled to inform me of how my face should be, as though they owned it, or it were public property, which of course according to them it is.
posted by Andrea at 4:30 AM
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I too really hate "smile" dickheads. I'm always tempted to say something back to them like "Actually my mother died this morning." How the f*ck do they know you have something to smile about anyway?
I fucking hate this! Wasnt sure if it was just a rude 'American male thing' or not...just goes to show rude "smile" men are everywhere women are.
My girlfriend goes off on guys that say this!
My mother had a hospital porter say 'Smile love, it might never happen.' to her once. SHE was the patient, in because she was miscarrying twins. I believe she was in a wheelchair at the time.
Nope, I reckon it's an international dickhead thing.
It's a male privilege thing.
We're not valued for thinking, which, as we all know, is what makes you unhappy, so when we're not smiling we're reminding men that we are more then sexbots.
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This is my first post!
Thank god I found this because 'smile' dickheads upset me but after reading the posts I now feel better.
In the last few weeks I have had two smile dickheads annoy me. The first one - an unsightfully ugly man, passed me in the street and said:
'*tut* smile darling it might never happen.’
Ok so I’m not the happiness person at the moment but I did smile politely when he looked at me. My face dropped as he spoke and I spent the rest of my day wondering what was wrong with my face. Lol im so sensitive.
Right yesterday I was just walking quietly minding my own business when a man with an nspcc t - shirt (which is a joke im 18 and was abused as a child. That has a lot to do with my unhappiness) Aggressively Shouted at me and said 'SMILE’ to which I replied quietly in a high voice 'ok' he continued with 'GOD SMILE' and I just walked past. It doesn't make me smile to be shouted at at all. It upsets me and makes me wonder what’s wrong with my face. If he really wanted me to smile he should have smiled back or said something nice to me and been gentle. Then I would smile. That really pisses me off why should I smile? He doesn't even know me and as people have said before how do they know what’s happened in your life? Maybe someone’s just died. Idiot what the fuck makes people think they have the right to comment. I’m annoyed with myself that I never say anything back. Next time I will say as suggested ‘actually my mother died this morning’. I wonder what they would say to that. They would probably have a smart answer.
WHAT DICKS AND FANNYS THEY ARE!
Ps: nspcc have a new ‘ don’t hide it’ campaign. Which is basically telling you don’t smile if your being abused let it show. So I am, idiot doesn’t even know what hes promoting.
[url]http://www.nspcc.org.uk/html/home/home.htm[/url]
Oh yes, I've had this one! I also hate the ones who say "You'd look so much prettier if you'd smile". Responses SHOULD be "You'd sound a lot better if you kept your mouth shut" or "You'd look a lot better if [insert 'you were somewhere else' and/or personalised insult (see how they like it)]". However, I've always either smiled, glared rather impotently or tried to explain (why should I?) that my mouth naturally turns down at the corners but it doesn't mean I'm grumpy. Why should I be justifying my face? I certainly shan't be any longer.
This is a reply to "Winter"... I had that exact thing happen. It just happened that my mother HAD died the day before. I had gone to work to escape the solemn atmosphere at home and this guy knocked me for six just by saying that.
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Hi, I am a male living in The Netherlands.
And I asure you, girls don't look more fuckable if they smile, but they do look more happy.
Some men actually care about the hapines of strangers.
So they tell them ''girl cheer up, you look even prettier when you smile''.
They don't mean ''hey you have an ugly face but if you start smiling ya might look good enough to get laid''.
They probably wouldn't adress you and say to smile if they would think you're face is ugly and you look scary, it's an compliment that men take the energy espesially for you to try and cheer you up, which obvious didn't worked for the girls that commented here.
And if something did happen to you that makes you unhappy and you'd actually tell them seriously, they could cheer you up, because it's not an all male thing. It are the rare man who try to think that sexual way.
Don't get me wrong, I as a man have a way higher sex drive, so I'll flirt more, but it doesn't mean we're trying to possess or rule or insult in any way.
So next time a friendly face says ''smile, love'' don't be hard-headed about it.
Feminisme is good, and should always be promoted, but the way I see things, feminisme is about giving women more chances, treading them more equal and offcourse to say out loud how great they are.
It's not about insulting the male, it's not about telling him how ignorant and ''dickheads'' they are, because if you do, are you any better than what they would do according to you...
I am a huge fan of feminisme and of courtly love in the end of the renasaince were man played a part aswell, but I will not pretend that I'm less capable or less than any other female or male.
''There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you''
So please think twice before commenting and posting stuff on the internet adressed to all men.
Gijs so you know what every man is thinking? i do believe it has to do with men wanting women to always look attractive(horny dogs!)i work in retail. when iam in a very good mood and am smiling and chatting with the customers i am constantly getting hit on by men, asking me for my number or if i have a boyfriend and this is by all types of men old, raggy with missing teeth, those with partners. on the days where i am not in such a good mood or am thinking alot i get remarks like smile you are so much prettier when you smile. what the ****! give me a break!People can be so rude,first of all men should control their impulses just cause you think a girl is attractive you dot need to hit on her, not everyone likes it! it makes me feel uncomfortable as if im being undressed by their eyes! the same as if you think a girl is ugly you dont tell her that do you? keep it to yourself. you say people just want to give you a compliment but every thought your opinion doesnt mean s*** to them! the problem with people is that we are obsessed with appearances get over it!
lovely_girlie
I feel ya, it does make you think unnecessary,unhealthy thoughts. but just remember they are the ones who are being rude. if a women would tell a man that especially here in the uk hed tell her to f*** off! the best thing ive learned to do is ask "why?" or give them a look a dirty look. where i work i deal with regular customers and the problem with it is that they think they know you, if i do not know a person i treat them with the type of respect id like to be treated with from strangers. but as i said before many people are rude!
I sometimes tell them to stare at the sun if they want something pretty to look at, otherwise just point out their rudeness is the last thing that's going to get a smile from me today.
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